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Wise Words

Posted by on December 31, 2009

I found this before we were pregnant and kept it because I knew how important it was going to be.  Now that we’ve had complications I see the importance of these little reminders even more so.  The non-bold are my words as I felt the need to comment on some, you know I like to “talk”. lol

Trimester one (October 17-January 1)

I will try to live the next 3 months without fear. (I was doing well with this until Nov 24 and on Dec 16 my fear left again)
I will try to have faith that while I cannot see or feel my baby she is thriving.
(This one fits with my mantra: “My baby is happy & healthy and growing just as it should be!” I can’t even count the number of times I said and prayed this in my mind)
I will have patience with morning sickness and try to remember it will be worth it.
(So glad I never had sickness!)
I will try to remember that no matter how sick I am, the baby is getting what he needs.
(Again, I was lucky in this aspect)
I will accept that I have no morning sickness and that does not mean something is wrong.
(This is harder to come to terms with than you would think!)
I will console those with losses without becoming obsessed with the possibility of my own.
(Again, this was really hard to do…but I managed)
I will try to make healthy choices for me and my baby while forgiving myself of not so great choices I cannot change.
(I am definitely content with my choices for sure!)
I will accept “advice” from those around me with good humor and continue making my own decisions.
(Oh unsolicited advice…. :P)
I will try to understand that while 15000002 things can go wrong, it only has to go right once.
(So True!)
I will have faith that every little cell is becoming what it needs to be to create my child.
(Again, this goes with my mantra)
I will remember that spotting, while terrifying, is sometimes merely spotting.
(And sometimes it’s not just merely spotting, but is ok in the end anyway)
I will not allow fear to control my food choices, but try to have the strength to make good decisions more often than not.
(Didn’t happen. I might have eaten things I shouldn’t but I’m ok with it. Moderation is the key to everything I say. No sense worrying about the little stuff)

Trimester two (January 2-April 16)

I will enjoy these next three months.
I will take time to stop and enjoy those kicks and rolls because it is all over too soon.
I will continue to make healthy choices without feeling guilty about having a weak moment.
I will enjoy my food without allowing fear to rule the choices I make.
I will try to accept that even though 50003 things can go wrong it only has to go right once.
I will love my blooming body because I know one day I will miss it.
I will cherish time alone with my spouse.
I will accept “advice” from those around me with good humor and continue making my own decisions.
I will try to remember that while spotting is still terrifying, sometimes it is merely spotting.

Trimester three (April 17 – July 10)

I will enjoy my last three months of pregnancy.
I will spend time rubbing my belly and watching the baby kick, roll and hiccup.
I will try to remember that the swollen ankles, sore back, itchy skin and reduced mobility will be worth it.
I will have good humor about the fact I am constantly peeing, farting or burping.
I will sleep just because I can.
I will not allow every twinge to send me into panic about labour.
I will find peace in knowing a baby comes out eventually, even if it is not on schedule.
I will take at least one picture of naked belly because I know I will miss it.
I will thank my spouse for being so amazing during the last few months.
I will make healthy choices as often as I can.
I will not allow fear to govern my food choices.
I will become educated about breast and bottle feeding and make the best choice for me, and not feel guilty about it.
I will prepare myself for birth without become fearful of it.
I will get my fears out in the open and discuss them.
I will get over the fact I will poop on the table and remember that no one cares.
I will try to bring my child into this world as peacefully as possible, no matter if it vaginal or c-section.
I will try to remember as many moments of the first 24 hours with my child and show them as much love as possible.
I will say at the end “Yes, that was worth it”.

Post Partum (Hopefully July 10 and on!)

I will not allow myself to call my body ugly. It is in perfect shape for what it just did.
I will try and see stretch marks as badges of pregnancy.
I will try and understand that no one sees those stretch marks as much as I do.
I will seek help if needed.
I will not be ashamed to admit I do not know everything, or anything.
I will remember to kiss my spouse every day.
I will not allow my fear of germs to prevent me from going out.
I will not allow my fear of SIDS to prevent me from sleeping.
I will accept “advice” from those around me with good humor and continue making the best choices I can.
I will make choices that I feel are best for my family and try to not feel guilty.
I will accept that others make different choices and they are not wrong.

One Response to Wise Words

  1. shannon

    Positive thinking at its best, they are all very true. i’m so excited for u and john, you’re going to be great parents.

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