*Be forewarned, potential to be mushy*
9 years married today.
12 years together, 7 cars/Jeeps/vans, 3 apartments, 2 degrees, 3 provinces, 1 house (hopefully 2 sooner than later), 1 dog, and 3.5 kids (he he) later I wouldn’t have wanted anyone else by my side learning how to navigate this crazy thing called life that we have.
My rock, my love, my best friend, my source of
endless frustration and laughter. I knew that 9 years ago today I was making the choice I was meant to make and walked down that aisle without any fear or reservation. We’ve had highs higher than highs and lows lower than lows and it’s not the end of that but somehow we are making it through. It’s been hard work and a balance and many days are struggles in one way or the other, but we are figuring out and still learning what works for us.
Your patience balances my quick temper. My shy, introverted self is balanced by your outgoing, extroverted self. I could go on and on with how we compliment each other, but I’ll spare people that. But, who else would eat the pickles or tomatoes on my burgers when they aren’t left off? And don’t forget about the nasty mushrooms I diligently pick out of meals when I don’t realize it has mushrooms. Who would eat those and make me appear to be an adult not picking around food on her plate? What would I do then because Lord knows I’d never eat it on my own and our kids would be on to me and my dislike for many things. We can’t have that! Then they would have the power. 😉
I appreciate every thing you do as a father, husband, son, and employee more than I can even put into words. I see it all. I know it’s hard but it doesn’t go un-noticed. The past 3.5 years haven’t been smooth sailing that’s for sure. It wasn’t what we had pictured or planned. We’ve had to lean on each other and re-learn how to be parents and spouses and not become one of the 80% (“They” say 80% of parents of children with special needs divorce) but we are making it.
People tell me all the time that I am “so lucky” to have the marriage and husband I have. I don’t think it’s luck. I know it’s not luck. None of this and none of the person you are is by chance. I see the sweat, tears, and pure exhaustion that can be our marriage, family, and work in & outside the home. I also see the smiles, laughter, love, and plain ol’ perfect chaos we have chosen. But none, of this is luck.
I love you.
Just as always, I take time today to re-read and share our vows.
In the presence of God and before these witnesses, I L.aura take you J.ohn to be my husband.
I will treasure our friendship, and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust and honour you.
I will laugh and cry with you, and share my life openly and honestly with you.
I do not take you for granted, I cherish you.
I do not need you, I choose you.
I choose you today in witness of all the people who love us.
I choose you tomorrow in the privacy of our hearts.
I choose you in strength and weakness.
I choose you in health and in sickness.
I choose you in joy and in sorrow.
I will choose you, over all others, every day for all the days of my life. This is my solemn vow.
Thank you for the past 9 years and giving me the happiest and being there during the hardest days of my life.